"To me, gender is the poetry each of us makes out of the language we are taught" (10).

This quote really says it all. Out of everything that I read, this quote is one that is beautiful and eloquent. I'm not sure if it's just because it relates to literature and that is my field of expertise or because it speaks the truth. This world is not black and white. Many times there is more than just right and wrong, big and small, masculine and feminine. Our world is made up of ever varying shades of color. In today's society, we are taught that there if something, or someone is different, then they are in the wrong. Feinberg discusses the idea that sometimes being called "ma'am" or "sir" just doesn't fit. Along with having to check the box for male or female on documents.

Society needs to be in educated in the ideas that there is more than just male or female. Society is so concerned with being one or the other that it effects everyone's lives. If a child a female, than every quality she must posses should be feminine. The same goes for boys. Society becomes nervous when a little girl would much rather put on a pair of jeans and roll around in the mud with her brothers. People are stigmatized starting at a very young age.

If this pressure wasn't so prevalent in the world, people would realize that there is more than just meets the the eye. Feinberg describes the time she was kicked out of a hospital because they refused to treat her because she was different. This type of behavior is appalling. What's even worse are the people who think that they can change those who are different. According to the article "Group's challenge of gay to straight therapy praised by Miami professor" one person believes that homosexuality is a choice and if the person who is affected by the feelings try really hard to get rid of them, they can. It's as easy as that. All they need are prayers and Jesus. It's this close-mindedness that affects people everyday. By liberating oneself, others can surely follow and these thoughts and ideas can be put to rest.

People deserve to live the way they want, no matter what. No one else has a say as to what one can or cannot do.